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The Power of Words
Posted on 04/10/2017
It seems so incredible that only 7% of all human communication is actually verbal (language). We gain almost all of the valuable information that we need from another person from body language, yet the power of the words that we choose to use can never be underestimated.
The effect that our choice of words has on how we approach any task will ultimately shape our thinking and subsequent actions. No more detrimentally than when we are working with other species.
If a person thinks of dominating a dog, training a dog, showing a dog who is the boss (master), give commands to a dog or insist that a dog obeys the owner immediately, then both the dog and the person are doomed to a life of confrontation and sadness.
Chances of success will be greatly improved once you understand that the simple decision to use only positive and affectionate words (words that make you smile when you say them), will transform life for you both.
One of the most important factors in the relationship between anyone who takes a dog into their lives and their dog has to be that the relationship is founded on this premise; all domestic dogs are in an alien world. Then it becomes the responsibility of that Carer to ensure that the dog is safe and has someone to turn to whenever they are in need of support, a Leader. To be a good leader you have to firstly engage the dog and then to deliver the level of reassurance that they need to live happily in our world.
When you soften your words you soften your thinking, you soften your actions and you succeed. So when you accept that the role of Leader is 95% responsibility for the welfare of those in a care and your attitude is; you have to step up to this job for the sake of your dog, then you are able to understand that your job should be about taking the impossible worry from your dog, rather than believing that a dog should do as you say.
The other vital part of success comes from recognising and accepting that this is a dog, not a ‘mini me’ and although we have a great deal of in common with a fellow predator our dogs remain part of the noble and magnificent canine family and we can bring out the very best in ourselves working to bring them calm and joy.